The A–Z of Wedding Terminology

Planning a wedding can feel like learning a whole new language. Between “first look,” “MOH,” “BEO,” and “flat lay,” it’s easy to get lost in the jargon. But don’t worry — I’ve got you covered!

As a wedding planner, I’ve helped so many couples navigate the whirlwind of wedding lingo. So, here’s your go-to A–Z wedding dictionary to help you understand what vendors mean when they throw around these terms — and to make your planning process a whole lot smoother.

A – Altar

Where you’ll say your “I do’s.” The altar area is typically the ceremony focal point — whether it’s under a floral arch, in front of a mountain view, or at the end of an aisle lined with candles.

B – Bustle

The hidden magic that transforms your train into a dance-floor-friendly gown. A seamstress adds buttons or ties to “bustle” your dress after the ceremony.

C – Coordinator

The person who keeps your day running smoothly (hi, that’s me 👋). A wedding coordinator ensures your timeline, vendors, and details flow perfectly so you can relax and actually enjoy your day.

D – Day-of Timeline

Your wedding-day playbook! This document outlines everything — from hair and makeup to your grand exit — and keeps everyone (vendors, wedding party, family) on the same page.

E – Escort Cards

Often confused with place cards — escort cards tell guests which table to sit at, while place cards tell them which seat.

F – First Look

A private (or semi-private) moment before the ceremony where you and your partner see each other for the first time. It’s emotional, intimate, and great for calming nerves (plus, you get more photos!).

G – Golden Hour

That dreamy, glowy light right before sunset. Your photographer will definitely want to sneak you away for a few photos during this time.

H – Head Table

A special table at your reception for the couple and sometimes the wedding party. Some couples choose a sweetheart table instead — a table just for the two of you.

I – Invitation Suite

All the printed details that make up your wedding invitations — including the invite, RSVP card, details card, and envelope.

J – Joint Toast

A fun modern twist where both partners thank guests together instead of having just one person speak.

K – Ketubah

A traditional Jewish marriage contract, beautifully designed and signed during the ceremony or before it.

L – Layout

The floor plan for your ceremony and reception — showing where tables, bars, and dance floors go. Your planner and venue work together to design this.

M – MOH (Maid/Matron of Honor)

Your right-hand person throughout wedding planning — usually the one helping with dress fittings, shower planning, and keeping your stress levels low.

N – Non-Traditional Wedding

A wedding that breaks the “rules” and focuses on what’s meaningful to you. Whether it’s a backyard brunch or a mountain elopement — there are no wrong choices here.

O – Open Bar

Guests’ favorite two words. 😉 An open bar means your guests can order whatever drinks they’d like without paying.

P – Processional

The order in which your wedding party and family walk down the aisle at the start of your ceremony.

Q – Questionnaire

A form your planner or photographer may send before your wedding to capture all the important details — think vendor contacts, song choices, and family photo lists.

R – Rehearsal

A quick run-through of your ceremony (usually the day before) so everyone knows where to walk, stand, and smile.

S – Sweetheart Table

A small table just for the couple at the reception — perfect for soaking in a few quiet moments together amid the celebration.

T – Timeline

A detailed schedule that outlines when every event happens — hair and makeup, first look, ceremony, reception — everything! Your planner will create and manage this for you.

U – Ushers

Friends or family who help seat guests and distribute programs at your ceremony.

V – Vendor Team

The professionals who bring your wedding vision to life — planner, photographer, florist, DJ, caterer, and more. (Tip: choosing vendors who communicate well with each other makes everything smoother.)

W – Welcome Sign

The first thing guests see when they arrive — often personalized with your names, wedding date, and a warm greeting.

X – XO

A sweet sign-off for love notes, favors, or signage — meaning “hugs and kisses.”

Y – Year-Out Planning

The early stage of planning — booking your venue, choosing your planner, and setting your budget. Getting organized early keeps things stress-free later.

Z – Zero-Regret Day

The goal of it all. A wedding that feels authentically you — full of joy, love, and no “I wish we had…” moments.

Final Thoughts

The wedding world might have its own language, but now you’re fluent! Whether you’re just starting to plan or finalizing your details, understanding these terms helps you feel more confident and in control of your day.

And remember — if you ever come across a term you don’t understand, just ask your planner (that’s what we’re here for!).